What should you do when you just never get to where you thought you’d be in life at this point? This is a question I have been asking myself frequently as of late. I really don’t have a road map to this answer, but here are some of my thoughts at this point.
Let it go. What you thought you may have been is not your actuality. It simply sucks to hear, but lets face it, sometimes the truth is not pretty, nor wanted.
So then, what do you do from here? My advice – rebuild your dreams. Evaluate what is meant to be for your future now. Deeply, truly, wholeheartedly ask yourself several questions: What do you want to spend your days and nights doing? What type of job will make you happy and fulfilled? Where in the world do you want to work? Who do you want to be with in life? Lastly, what is it that truly makes you happy at this stage in your life?
Remember, you are not who you were even a year ago, let along 10 years ago. Your personal rules in life have changed, and so should your goals and life aspirations. This is not to say that you don’t keep some of your original goals and dreams that you still hold dear – it simply means to build upon those, renew your goals, and add new ones as you move forward into your future.
So, Step one: think about what makes you tick. If you close your eyes, take several deep breaths, what do you visualize doing for a career? Who are you spending your time with? What type of life are you living? Once you answer these questions, which may not be immediate, start to make a plan.
Step Two: how are you going to move yourself toward this life that you are creating for yourself? What are the financial, social, and emotional steps you will need to fulfill to gain your life goals? Devise a budget, begin a savings plan, enumerate action steps toward your ideal job, and work at seizing that love that you want. Make a calendar, a chart, a step-by-step to-do-list with specifics to provide a constant reminder of your journey. Watch how you grow, reward yourself when possible, and revise your list as needed. Above all, TAKE THE LEAP toward your goals, as frightening as it can be. I know the words I am saying as I write this advice. I know, because I am currently in the leap phase. I am flying in the air without the knowledge of knowing where my net is – yet, I feel so free and enthusiastic about my journey. I have waited so long for it, pined for it, refrained from it, excused it, and finally, welcomed the chaos and hard work.
Join me, as we venture into a more fulfilling and healthy future for our present and future selves.